G spot: fact or fiction?

I am frustrated by how hypocritical we are about our sexuality. We all know how children come into the world, and we enjoy the act whether it is intended for reproduction or pure pleasure, however we are absolutely reluctant to speak about it. To admit that we do it and enjoy it is something we would rather not bring to light.

Does the G spot exist? Do all women have one?

If you do not know where your G spot is, do not worry.

To begin, science identified it in 2001, yet it did not officially acknowledge its existence until 2007. If science has recognized and located it, that should settle the question.

Ladies, do you truly know your own bodies? I will not enter a debate about whether you know what is inside your body. I am not referring to internal organs. I assume we are intelligent enough to know we have lungs, a heart, a brain and kidneys, among others.

It frustrates me that we are so hypocritical about our sexuality. We all know how children come into the world, and we enjoy the act whether it is oriented toward reproduction or pure pleasure, however we are absolutely reluctant to discuss it. To acknowledge that we do it and enjoy it is something we would rather not bring to light.

As the saying goes, a temptress in bed and a saint for the rest of the working day. This is my version of the proverb. You are welcome to correct me. I remain unfazed.

I have somewhat lost faith in women. What are we ashamed of? Do you think your men or boyfriends will judge your behavior? Do you believe you will lose them?

I could explore the themes of hypocrisy, sexual shame and self shame, yet that is for another text, as I am aware that attention tends to drop after about a page and a half.

Let us return to our remarkable G spot. I commend you if you know you have it and still have questions about how to engage this area, as well as why the ecstasy we feel from its stimulation varies over different periods of life.

For some women the existence of this area sounds like science fiction. Some even believe they were not born with it. Fortunately, this is not true!

Every woman has a G spot.

It is part of our physical anatomy unless there is a specific anatomical issue with your genital organs.

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This area is located inside the vagina on the anterior wall, about 3 to 5 cm from the vaginal opening.

The texture of the tissue at this site is slightly different, almost ridged, rather like corduroy or a cat’s tongue. If you gently curl your fingers into a hook and press lightly on this area, you will feel those ridges and most likely a pleasant sensation of pleasure. I trust it goes without saying that your fingers need to be inside the Yoni.

The G spot zone includes the entire area from where your fingertips reach when extended all the way to the vaginal opening.

Beyond its location, it is important to understand how it functions.

If you rely on stories you have heard, you may expect that the very first touch will bring an explosive orgasm unlike anything you have ever felt, and that you will spend the next hour lying there numb and wet.

It does not quite work that way.

The G spot is an accumulation of erectile tissue that will swell and, one could say, become erect much like the penis. The only difference is that this happens inside a woman’s body. Women have a similar amount of erectile tissue inside the body as men have outside the body. However, it usually takes 20 to 45 minutes for this tissue to be stimulated, to swell and for our bodies to become fully aroused.

So do not expect fireworks, squirting or ecstasy from the first second.

This area needs to pass through all stages of sexual arousal, and it requires some form of direct physical stimulation: fingers, a sex toy or, depending on the angle, a penis. Please do not use children’s toys.

Another thing you need to know is that women tend to store emotional, sexual and psychological “trauma” or “stress” in the sexual organs, and this is especially true of the G spot. That is why some women feel irritation, pain or even nothing at all when this area is stimulated.

If this applies to you, do not worry. This is completely normal and part of the healing process.

Since none of us received proper sex education, it is no wonder that most women and men are unfamiliar with their sexual anatomy and the body’s responses to sexual stimulation.

I invite you to find the courage to set shame aside, to reject the stereotypes imposed on us by this two faced society and to make time to start getting to know your body. This is the first step toward reclaiming our right to pleasure, which we were granted at birth.