Some women are unable to experience a clitoral orgasm, yet when most women talk about orgasm, this is the type they usually mean. The reason is that many of us have not discovered or felt our full sexual potential for reasons I have already mentioned. We can also experience other types or flavors of orgasm. Our potential is far greater than we generally dare to imagine.

In this article I chose to write about several different kinds of orgasm.

Combining vulva massage with the Ocean Breath is especially important during self pleasure. Our natural reaction when sensations grow intense or uncomfortable is to hold the breath and tense up. That is the opposite of relaxation. We may not notice it, yet this response pulls us away from the moment and dulls our awareness.

Allow me to begin with a note. This will be a long article, so I will divide it into several shorter parts. I know few people have the time to read for half a morning, no matter how valuable or insightful the piece may be. In truth, it is less a question of willingness and more a question of time.

Self pleasure is a topic that makes many women uncomfortable. When the subject arises, most women blush, laugh nervously, and just as quickly avoid making eye contact with anyone in the conversation. I used to be the same, back then. I would never have admitted that I masturbated, let alone that I ever used a toy.

The need to connect with oneself is a fundamental human need that we often overlook in our fast paced modern lives. If you ask me, this is the treasure chest we are all seeking:

To know the voice of our heart with such certainty that every moment we live is the purest and most refined expression of our soul.

It is essential to establish a daily meditation practice. In doing so, you connect with your inner wisdom and strength. To truly hear that quiet voice, we must be present, relaxed and aware. Throughout the day the mind locks onto constant chatter, an inner dialogue. Traces of emotion that build up during the day remain within our bodies and minds, and commentary about events keeps circling through our thoughts.

I believe each of us carries an inner sense of joy that awakens when we express ourselves freely, without imposed limits. The same feeling flows through movement in dance. Dance is a fundamental language of expression in every culture.