Combining vulva massage with the Ocean Breath is especially important during self pleasure. Our natural reaction when sensations grow intense or uncomfortable is to hold the breath and tense up. That is the opposite of relaxation. We may not notice it, yet this response pulls us away from the moment and dulls our awareness.

Allow me to begin with a note. This will be a long article, so I will divide it into several shorter parts. I know few people have the time to read for half a morning, no matter how valuable or insightful the piece may be. In truth, it is less a question of willingness and more a question of time.

Self pleasure is a topic that makes many women uncomfortable. When the subject arises, most women blush, laugh nervously, and just as quickly avoid making eye contact with anyone in the conversation. I used to be the same, back then. I would never have admitted that I masturbated, let alone that I ever used a toy.

The need to connect with oneself is a fundamental human need that we often overlook in our fast paced modern lives. If you ask me, this is the treasure chest we are all seeking:

To know the voice of our heart with such certainty that every moment we live is the purest and most refined expression of our soul.

It is essential to establish a daily meditation practice. In doing so, you connect with your inner wisdom and strength. To truly hear that quiet voice, we must be present, relaxed and aware. Throughout the day the mind locks onto constant chatter, an inner dialogue. Traces of emotion that build up during the day remain within our bodies and minds, and commentary about events keeps circling through our thoughts.

I believe each of us carries an inner sense of joy that awakens when we express ourselves freely, without imposed limits. The same feeling flows through movement in dance. Dance is a fundamental language of expression in every culture.

Since my last post where I mentioned balls and beads, I have received many questions about how to train with them and what exactly they are.

Allow me to outline how these beads can benefit your health. Here I am referring to Ben Wa jade balls and the jade egg. Every woman would do well to make a habit of using them while, for instance, vacuuming the house.